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My name is Lisa and I was involved in a fatal accident that killed a bicyclist that rode out against traffic, I feel horrible yet somehow I have been able to manage, well at least I think I am managing, I am holding it together, I just wanted to find a support group that I can reach out to in my town. I live in Tucson, AZ and my accident was 5/2/16. This is the first time I am sharing my story and I thought I did everything right by calling the police and cooperating yet the person did not make it and I struggle with anxiety now and I am terrified to drive, yet I drove the next day. I work 70 hours a week thinking that maybe I can put what happen in a place I rarely think about and this is not working. Any ideas on how I can talk to someone like a support group?
I too was involved in a fatal accident. I have been searching for some kind of support group where I can at least be around others that have shared a similar experience. If you , or anyone else, has found any kind of support group specifically for CADIs, please share.
I came across this site by accident and was compelled to keep reading, wanting to honor each story and the courage it took to write about such pain and regret. Although I am grateful not ( but for the grace of God, go I) to have personally experienced the tragedy of fatally harming another, I am a licensed social worker and I use EMDR therapy with many people who have experienced similar (and other) trauma using EMDR .
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is an integrative psychotherapy approach that has been extensively researched and proven effective for the treatment of trauma. EMDR is a set of standardized protocols that incorporates elements from many different treatment approaches. (www.emdria.org/?120
It is an incredible healing treatment for severe pain and suffering, please pass on the information about EMDR, I have witnessed the healing impact of it as well as experienced it myself.
Please tell people about EMDR treatment, there are other trauma therapies as well such as Progressive Counting and Cognitive Processing Therapy that have also helped survivors deal with PTSD symptoms including intrusive thoughts and memories, negative self beliefs, guilt, shame, nightmares, etc.
I was involved in a fatal motorcycle crash two years ago. I was making an unprotected left turn on a stormy day and turned in front of a motorcycle. I wasn’t speeding or texting or purposely being distracted and I don’t know for sure why I didn’t see him. My fear is that I just didn’t look and turned left when the light turned green. There were a lot of variables involved (he wasn’t wearing an approved helmet, he had marijuana in his system, I never found out how much), but I do know that I unintentionally daydream and it could have been all my fault. I’ll never know for sure what I could have done to prevent the accident and I’m scared that if I ever drive again, I won’t be able to prevent another accident from happening. The accident haunts me every day and I feel strong guilt and sadness when I think about how much hurt his family has experienced and when I think about the loss of his life. I also feel extremely isolated because I don’t know any other CADIs and the people who know about the accident, like my parents, don’t want to talk about it. I’m also in my early 20s and not many people my age seem to understand that crashes happen even when you aren’t consciously making a bad decision. One of my fears is that no one will want to hire me for a job someday because I have Careless Driving Resulting in Death on my record and I don’t think people would love me or would want to be my friend if they knew I had caused another person’s death. I also haven’t quite decided if I deserve to be alone and unhappy because of what I’ve done or not. I’ve managed to get through the past two years ok but I still struggle with depression, anxiety, guilt, and isolation.
My name is Christine and I was involved in a horrible accident on 6/17/04. I killed my boyfriend at the time drinking and driving. He was on his motorcycle and I was in my car. He was stopped at a red light and I was going to fast and I tried to stop but I hit him from behind. My life has never been the same. I have so much guilt, so much sadness, so much anger, even to this day. I have been punishing myself for 11 years. My life was taken away to. Sometimes I wish I would have died to. This is the first time I have gone to sites like this. I didn’t know if they even exsisted. I made such a horrible mistake. I don’t think I will ever forget it.
I was involved in a tragic accident in which an individual was killed on 6/23/2016. Every day sense then is been living in my head. I’m full of sadness and hopeless in thought. Today it’s been a week, I’m just now driving again. That is strange to me now. I’m in search of a support group in my area. I need help…
Blessed are those
whom are left to bare
the sorrow of it all…
I’m so sorry to hear about your accident. I was reading through the comments and immediately yours caught my attention. On exactly 6/23/2007. I was a driver in an accident that sadly involved a fatality. Even though it’s been over 9 years, there’s still never a day that goes by that I don’t think about it. But everyday you do get a little stronger. Just never never be afraid to reach out for help. Only now I’m August have I ever seen a therapist. It’s not weakness or shameful to get help.
Did you find a support group? It has been 3 months since my accident with a motorcyclist that did not survive
I know how you feel, because I was involved in an accident that the passenger in the other car was killed last Saturday morning, July 8. Everyday it seems harder for me to cope. I think about the other driver and their family every minute of the day.
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Thanks for this site. sometimes i dont know who to talk to, someone who will understand. it is not easy. i have a lot of anger in me. Why…why. i cannot turn back the hands of time. it happened, its not easy.
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